Wednesday, January 13, 2010

He did it!

So he finally popped the question and you said yes! I have noticed that many of my friends have recently been engaged and I have been giving them some advice and I thought I might share that with you as a newly engaged couple.

I think the first instinct when someone gets engaged is to immediately start planning. Get the church, the hall, the photographer, etc. (of course the entertainment and lighting too!). With that, there comes a ton of stress. Which professional to pick? Who to invite? Figure out a bridal party? And, well, I can go on and on. But what is forgotten are a few important and key things.

#1-It really should be fun. Planning your wedding needs to be fun. The two of you are going to be planning for such a fun day, for such an important reason. You are getting married! Remember to keep that in mind. Take time throughout the process to make each other smile. You will only do this once and you want to keep those memories for the rest of your lives.

#2-Don’t let others get you stressed out. For as much as they want to help, the day really is about you. You should make decisions that you are comfortable with and you shouldn’t do things because you are being forced to.

#3-He might not be that into the planning as you are. And that is normal. Most guys will want to do whatever makes you happy. And I mean that. They don’t just say that. They want to truly make the day special for both you and him. One of the things you can do to help him get involved is to run things by him and make sure he knows what part of the process you are working on. This way he can tell you how he feels about it.

#5-The whole process will go by so fast. Slow down and take it all in. Take your time and don’t rush things. Enjoy each moment that you will have. When the day comes, you will blink and it will be over, so make sure you spend some quality time with each other when the day comes.

#6- Make sure to sit down and have “the talk” to come up with a rough budget…know what’s important to each of you and make a working budget to keep you on track.

A couple hundred dollars over on one contract is OK, but without a guide you can easily go thousands over budget by the end of the planning.

#7-The people that you choose to work with (your team of professionals), make sure you click with them. Price is one thing, but you want to feel completely relaxed the day of your wedding, but you want to know that you hired people that will make sure you have incredible memories!

I wish you luck in the planning process and if you find our company one that you want to surround yourself by, we look forward to talking to you more about your style and personality. And, of course, congratulations on a wonderful road your life has taken! Enjoy it.

Thanks to Mark Kingsdorf of the Queen of Hearts Wedding Consultants. If it is in the budget, a wedding consultant makes your life so much easier! Thanks to Rebecca Druckenmiller and Dan Richman for letting us use one of Laura Eaton's awesome photograph's from the night of their engagement.


Jason




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